"The biggest lesson learned through grieving for almost as long as I've been conscious, is that it serves a purpose."

Kurt Cobain’s daughter, Frances, pens heartfelt note to father

DailyStar || Shining BD

Published: 4/22/2024 8:57:03 AM

Frances Bean Cobain has recently penned a beautiful, heartfelt tribute letter to her father, late Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain, and shared it on her Instagram handle.

Kurt Cobain committed suicide on April 5, 1994, at the young age of 27. Thirty years after the tragic incident, his daughter Frances Bean Cobain posted a loving letter on her Instagram account. Accompanied by a slideshow of family photos, the letter reads:

"30 years ago, my dad's life ended. The 2nd & 3rd photos capture the last time we were together while he was still alive. His mom, Wendy, would often press my hands to her cheeks & say, with a lulling sadness, 'You have his hands.' She would breathe them in as if it were her only chance to hold him just a little bit closer, frozen in time.

"I hope she's holding his hands wherever they are. In the last 30 years, my ideas around loss have been in a continuous state of metamorphosing. The biggest lesson learned through grieving for almost as long as I've been conscious is that it serves a purpose.

"The duality of life & death, pain & joy, yin & yang, need to exist alongside each other, or none of this would have any meaning. It is the impermanent nature of human existence which throws us into the depths of our most authentic lives. As It turns out, there is no greater motivation for leaning into loving awareness than knowing everything ends."

"I wish I could've known my Dad. I wish I knew the cadence of his voice, how he liked his coffee or the way it felt to be tucked in after a bedtime story. I always wondered if he would've caught tadpoles with me during the muggy Washington summers or if he smelled of Camel Lights & strawberry Nesquik (his favourites, I've been told)."


"But there is also deep wisdom in being on an expedited path to understanding how precious life is. He gifted me a lesson in death that can only come through the LIVED experience of losing someone. It's the gift of knowing for certain when we love ourselves & those around us with compassion, with openness, and with grace, the more meaningful our time here inherently becomes.

"Kurt wrote me a letter before I was born. The last line of it reads, 'wherever you go or wherever I go, I will always be with you.' He kept this promise because he is present in so many ways. Whether it's by hearing a song or through the hands we share, in those moments, I get to spend a little time with my dad & he feels transcendent."

"To anyone who has wondered what it would've looked like to live alongside the people they have lost, I'm holding you in my thoughts today. The meaning of our grief is the same."


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